What (in_memory) graph DB if modeling data is focused - node.js

Question

I am out of ideas and hope to get some useful input. I am using this question to compress my experiences and share them, hoping to inspire some distributors to go the next step with modeling graph databases as a first class question/way.
I've been validating some graph database solutions usable by node.js for a few weeks. My use case is to save interactions of different social user network accounts. The need is to use CPU and memory in the most efficient way.
My most important requirements are:
in_memory (at least for indexing)
open source (and free to use)
same JavaScript/Node.js performance as first class citizen
comfortable query and modeling language
Neo4J
I really like cypher so my best choice would be Neo4j.
But the major issue about Neo4j is the JavaScript access is non-native. It uses the REST-API which is about ten times (10x) slower than direct Java access. So I took a look at node-neo4j-embedded, but it has been inactive for more than two years. It looks like its author isn't active at all (bad sign).
ArangoDB
The really nice core developers of ArangoDB answered to my question about internals. Finally it means JavaScript is first class citizen because native queries can be pushed out of JS. Looking at the open source benchmarks, I think it is fair. But I am afraid they didn't use node-neo4j-embedded for their benchmark. The benchmarks compare the REST-APIs (Edited because of #weinberger comment). I wished they compare the native APIs (maybe someone is snoopy enough and give it a try! - let us know!). Update: As I noticed now, OrientDB has answered the benchmark with a new node.js driver (using Command Cache by starting the server with -Dcommand.cache.enabled=true -Dcommand.cache.minExecutionTime=3, what isn't fair, because it wasn't a query caches benchmark!)
Because I like to use ArangoDB as a graph database I would have 3 choices (source: FAQ):
traverse JS objects
using AQLs graph functions
using the REST API
In general it isn't comfortable like cypher. And I am not sure how to compare and what is the right way modeling data (like Neo4J explains very well). I'd love to have something like this for ArangoDB Graphs. It feels like ArangoDB is focused on graph operations and Neo4J fits more the needs of using graphs if you have more relations than rows (the reason to use graphs instead of relations with joins).
MongoDB
The document based MongoDB isn't optimized for graph operations but latterly has gotten an experimental in_memory storage engine. Also there are some projects either in_memory or graph related but nothing is really compelling. And at this discussion it looks like MongoDB isn't what I like to use.
OrientDB
Because there is a comparison about OrientDB vs. MongoDB available (from OrientDB) I though about to use this one. "OrientDB has a hybrid Document-Graph engine" using SQL. I am a former PHP/MySQL expert. But where is the modeling part ? Their chapter working with graphs is not cypher like. It is like using SQL for Graphs. There is nothing wrong with that, but using cypher before I miss the modeling like feeling.
If someone did a modeling process with OrientDB and Graphs maybe you could write a tutorial like Neo4J had done.
Update: About JavaScript access like first citizen there are news:
"In the next release the speed of this driver will be comparable to the native Java one" The forked node.js driver had bin fixed last days.
Update: Before choosing OrientDB one might want to read article about some issues and discussions linked from there. The article is touching a sensitive issue and should be approached with critical mind. Note from author of this update: I'm new to editing SO and don't have enough reputation to put this to comments. I believe this information is a valid point to discussion, not sure how to place it here according to SO rules.
LokiJS
Before I was looking at Neo4J, ArangoDB and MongoDB, I played around with that JavaScript based in_memory database called LokiJS, what seams to follow the strategy to ignore everything what slows down performance and efficiency. LokiJS is trying to complete the Mongo-Style (RoadMap). The major issue is the bad ability to scale. Of cause it isn't a graph database but it was an interesting solution while the beginning of my project. Also it wasn't a perfect feeling to find all the distributed documentation (maybe they should reboot with GitBook).
Finally LokiJS is a very interesting project at all and I hope they will go forward!
LevelDB
Previously when I wrote my degree paper I was looking at levelDB. Remembering this while writing this post, I searched for LevelDB in_memory and got a promising result called MemDown (see also). I haven't tested this find, but maybe someone has experiences working and modeling for this solution. Maybe it would be the most efficient way if all the others will not fit because I would simply write a lightweight cypher clone with the goal to stay much lightweight as I can do.
Edit: Due to comment, here is a link to LevelGraph. As an idea to implement a CYPHER parser for LevelGraph/LevelDB your starting point would be to compare
Cypher:
CREATE (SUBJECT:"a") - [b:PREDICATE] -> (OBJECT:"c")
RETURN, subject, predicate, object
LevelGraph:
var RETURN = { SUBJECT: "a", PREDICATE: "b", OBJECT: "c" };
db.put(RETURN, function(err) {
// ..
});
Conclusion
As you likely noticed I am not the super hero about graphs. But this is my initial dive into this and I'm trying to get an overview. I assume there are a lot people out there who want to ask the same questions as me but haven't the time. I hope this post will help a lot people and will change by comments and answers to become a well done overview how to modeling data for graphs.
#editors: You are welcome.
#commenters: This is the result of my personal research - if you also have done a journey like me, please answer with a short summary like I have done for each DB I've evaluated (don't forget to target my 4 goals).

Answer 1

The idea to combine node-style performance through any of the native features (e.g. streams) and a high level query language like CYPHER is actually quite neat.
What you likely won't get is any kind of low level API, since this is rather rare with DB authors and, supposedly, not wanted in their design patterns. So, long running tcp connections shall just serve fine.
cypher-stream since to incorporate all of this, while (superficially judged) maintaining a good style.
Since you likely won't get any further with the search, I'd suggest sending him a pull request if any other features are needed :)

Answer 2

You should take a look at Gundb https://github.com/amark/gun
It's open source and has a very active and helpfull lead developer.
Join us at https://gitter.im/amark/gun